7 Things To Remember When Getting Divorced

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The end of a relationship causes many problems, the emotional storms are peppered with serious financial implications, changes in living arrangements, how to parent in a split family and of course the legal process of divorce itself. Knowing the key stages of divorce and the legal obligations that come with it will help to put a framework in place as well as help with any decisions that have to be made. There is no doubt that being informed will help. Taking professional advice and employing a solicitor will ease this difficult and sad process.

  1. No one ever ‘wins’ in a divorce case. Children will always suffer the most, custody and parental responsibility is harsh and despite the heat of the situation, the children should always come first. Mediation is worth considering as it will help you to think through decisions more carefully and thoughtfully with the help of a professional.
  2. Never make impulsive decisions always think through each and every one. Does your family home need to be sold? Will your child/ren need to move school? Who has custody? These are life changing decisions for everyone and with potential consequences. Being considered is paramount for the health and well-being of everyone.
  3. Every divorce has a different set of issues so rely on a professional lawyer or financial consultant rather than friends or family’s experience. They after all will know every legal detail that needs to be adhered too.
  4. Using a mediator is a good way to come to mutual agreements with the help of a third party.
  5. Working with a lawyer rather than heading straight to court will keep the costs of a divorce down. No one wants their assets to be shrivelled up in costly negotiations, so be prepared to compromise. By using mediation and collaboration it is possible to negotiate each issue bit by bit. It means that the divorcing couple can make their own decisions. This may be particularly useful when looking at how to co-parent any children.
  6. Your solicitor will be able to guide you through the process without the need for emotion however you should always be honest with them, without the key facts they will not be able to work with you to get the best results. Be transparent with income and assets as well as any ongoing issues you may have such as debt or abuse. They will be able to advice you properly on the costs involved as well as the time scale of the proceedings.
  7. Make an inventory of everything in the house with accompanying photographs, this will help when dividing up any items of value. Get the value estimated by a professional and keep these documents together. Alway keep copies of any other important documents such as pre-nuptial agreements, your solicitor will need all of these. They will be able to discuss all of your options with you and enable you to comprehend where you stand. Not only that they will explain your rights as well as your spouses and help to make the divorce as stress free as possible.

Harry Price is a writer from the south coast, with wife and 3 dogs.  They all love the outdoors life and love nothing more than a long walk by the sea, especially on a wet and windy day.

Love And Marriage

When it comes to finding the right person to marry, many people can agree that it’s often one of the most important decisions of their life. Who you choose as a spouse will ultimately determine your level of happiness and how supported you are by your partner. When you want to decide if your significant other is truly the one, there are a few important signs to look for before saying, “I do.”

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Trust is Established

One of the most important aspects of any long-term relationship is having trust that is established. Jealousy shouldn’t be an issue that continuously comes up, which can often cause division and strife over time. As a couple, there should be a high level of vulnerability and transparency without assuming that you’re each hiding secrets from one another. If your partner tends to look through your phone or control who you communicate with, there may not be enough trust that is established when you’re looking to get married.

You have a Strong Support System

You should feel completely supported by your significant other with each decision that you make and with the dreams that you have for the future. When you find the right person to marry, you’ll feel stronger being with the individual than if you were alone. There’s often an empowerment that is experienced when you find the right person, which can allow you to feel more confident in yourself and what you’re capable of accomplishing in life. The person that you’re meant to marry will consistently encourage you with your strengths and abilities as a cheerleader who will help you to go farther with both your personal and professional career goals. You should also be more than willing to do the same for the other person.

A Romantic Connection is Present

Finding your one true love means having a romantic connection that surpasses other romantic relationships that you’ve in your life. You should have a high level of chemistry that hasn’t been experienced with other individuals who you’ve dated in the past. Although it’s important to have consistency and stability in marriage, there should still be a strong connection that is often exciting and exhilarating as you grow in your relationship together. Romantic connections are often built upon being friends with one another. You should feel as if you’re marrying the person who understands you the most and is truly your best friend.

Your Partner is Willing to Compromise

The person you marry should be willing to compromise while spending your life together, which will make it easier to make decisions as a team. If you both truly care for one another, you’ll be more than willing to compromise if it benefits the person that you love. Whether you’re considering relocating for a job or trying to decide how many kids to have, your significant other should have already shown that they can compromise to maintain a healthy relationship and help each other succeed. It’s important for compromise to be present in marriages, which will allow the relationship to thrive long-term due to a selfless attitude that each partner has towards their spouse. Finding someone who will put you before themselves is crucial to having sustained happiness with someone who truly cares for your well-being.

John Keefe is an avid blogger and professional Wedding Officiant in Oklahoma City. John is passionate about sharing information online through his blogs, on youtube, and provides local marriage services in OKC to his local community with Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies.